Why do I handle pressure well at work but crash at home?
The short answer
Stress-clearance genes set your baseline, but the context decides when you feel it - many slow-clearing people hold it together under structure and crash once the structure drops.If your COMT and FKBP5 wiring clears stress chemistry slowly, the load does not disappear when the workday ends - it surfaces. The collapse at home is often the delayed cost of a held-together day, not a separate problem.
This is worth naming with the people you live with. The crash is not about them. It is your nervous system finally processing a day it could not process in real time.
Do this today
Build a ten-minute decompression buffer between work and home - a walk, a shower, silence in the car. Give the crash somewhere to land before you walk in the door.
Genes in playCOMTFKBP5